I have laughed about this topics on many occasions with my friends. From the moment you miss your period and see your doctor to confirm pregnancy you are automatically lumbered with dates. Dates for screening,dates for scans,dates for gestational diabetes and the list goes on. The most important date however is the due date which according to health professionals is estimated from the first day of your last period. Pregnancy usually last up to 37-40 weeks so your health professional would give a date based on that. Not many woman know this but i have just read on baby centre that sperm can the sperm can hang around in the fallopian tube until an attractive eggs pops along..how interesting indeed so just because you do the deed on Monday it does not necessaries mean baby happened straight away so i think i now understand how due dates can be misleading. I have to emphasise that due dates are simply there as a guide to enable health professionals to offer better care to both mum and baby so that is quite reassuring.
I have had my own drama with due dates, with my first baby i was told she would be born on 14th march. I was also told that first babies never come .I started maternity leave on 1st March and 14th March came and went and there was no sign of my baby girl. And as days went by i started to look for signs of labour and there was no broken water, no gushing of anything. Nothing at all like what Hollywood has fed people for decades. I started to feel unwell with raised temperature and had strong contractions. I called the hospital and they kept telling me, ‘sorry you do not sound like your in labour’. This carried on for days until i eventually took my maternity bag and decided to go in regardless because by then i had not slept for almost 1 due to strong contractions. I am glad i went in because i was told i had severe urine infection and i was given antibiotics and kept in as i was already overdue and not in good shape. I was in a state of panic but i thank God my husband was there the whole time praying and also the lady from the Womb ministry called everyday to pray and assure me that it will all happen in God’s time! So my first baby girl was born on the 23rd March and not the 14th March.
My second baby was also overdue. Because of all the issues that went on with the first i was advised to go in for a sweep from 38 weeks. My score was very low and i was told to come back weekly for sweeps which was so uncomfortable and painful might i add…(wow the stuff us woman go through). Anyway i remembered what sister Ayo said about everything being in God’s time. God knitted that precious baby in my womb and in His appointed time the birth would take place. One Friday morning i woke up with strong urge to clean the house even though my husband insisted i sit on the sofa. I cleaned the house top to bottom and only sat down to eat in the evening when my sister in-law made some delicious beef stew with lots of scotch bonnet chilli. As soon i finished eating i turned around and said to my husband, ‘lets go (i know that chilli kicked started full labour lol)’. We were admitted and by the morning i was more than 5cm dilated and by Sunday at 2am my darling princess was born. She was due on the 3rd April but arrived on the 14th April.
If you are waiting for your little miracle please take heart. God is with you and as a believer you need to just immerse yourself with the word of God just the way your take your daily pregnancy multivitamins. I can assure you the Word will sustain you and your baby Amen!!
funny image by Richard Gunther from mightymarg.org
The past 1 year or so i have had to make a very important decision regarding my daughter’s education. My darling just turned 4 and in September she will be starting reception so i have had the task of visiting various schools and researching on the Ofsted website. I have always had my heart set on 1 particular faith school. It is a church of England school as that is the closest to our pentecostal denomination. This school is so lovely their website even states, ‘we learn together,we pray together’. I was fully armed with 6 choices to make because it is so difficult for school places to come by and every all parents are required to choose 6 school and also highlight their first and second choice.
I prayed about all my choices as well as talking to other mums and dads about our local schools. I prayed that God will give my daughter the best school for her, a school which will cater to her Christian faith. When my daughter was 6 months old we dedicated her onto the Lord and our pastors emphasised the importance of training up a child (Proverbs 22.6) and so i am keen to uphold what we have been taught. I am not here to knock non faith schools because there are some brilliant no faith schools out there but i believe so it is important to choose what is good for your child and your family.
All the faith schools required a statement from our church which our kid’s pastor was happy to provide. We then had to indicate which church we go to and how often we attend. I suppose that is a good way for the schools check out the facts. Anyway to cut the long story short we received the results today and my princess was given her second choice…we were not given our first choice because that school is oversubscribed and also siblings get priority regardless of their faith (which kind of defeats the whole faith school objective). I hear overall many children did not get their first choice and hundreds of children were not even offered a place so we are grateful to God! I was a tad bit disappointed at first but then i remembered i did not make my decision on a whim and i actually prayed for God’s best and this is what He has done so glory be to Jesus!! So that is my experience for primary school application and here are a few tips for you to consider when your time comes:
*Visit the school for open days, do not just rely on the website because when you visit a place you often get a feeling..a knowing .
*Speak to other parents who may have children in that particular school
You made something outta nothing by Jessica Reedy. I heard it playing on OHTV OH worship. It is such a beautiful song which i cannot get enough of. Like it says in Psalm 8:4, ‘what is man that you are mindful of him, and the son of man that you care for him? We are but clay in the hands of the Creator and this song just brings it home how indeed God can create something out of nothing. enjoy!
Sometime this week i saw on Kirk Franklin’s tweeter a retro picture (see pic) of him and his wife where he made a light joke about her collars. He wrote, ‘back in the day..ooh kill em with those collars baby happy anniversary”. I read a bit closer and i realised they have just celebrated 18 years of marriage. That is so amazing and by today’s standard 18 years of marriage is like a century so congratulations to them. Another thing i find amazing about this couple is that one would think they have just walked down the alter yesterday, it is really nice to see a loved up couple we can all look up to. May God keep them and bless them with a long fruitfulness and happy marriage.
Marriage is work and i have heard a few seasoned professionals saying how its its not for the faint hearted. I have been at it for nearly 5 years and well i cannot compare 5 years to 18 years but it is enough for me to say well done and congratulations to this wonderful couple and they should definitely write a book to help other couples…i would be the first to buy!
As we are leaving 2013 and by the Grace of God entering the new year I have been reflecting on what an amazing year this has been. Of course I am thankful for the gift of life that goes without saying but it is always good to voice our gratitude to the Lord even though He knows what we want to say before we even say it. God blessed me with a healthy baby girl in April who is just as happy,peaceful and adorable like her 3 year old big sister. In the midst of lack and credit crunch my hubby has managed to remain in a job and also God has sustained us all in many way that writing it all down could possibly take a lifetime. Some time last month I kept hearing the words ‘unexpected blessings or blessings from an unlikely source’ within my heart and I looked up the scriptures and came across this ‘behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert. Isaiah 43:19’ This just sums up my year how blessings came from unlikely sources. I learnt one thing for sure this year and that is to not dictate to God how and where and whom He should use to bless you because if He can (and He does) create rivers in a desert then He can bless us whichever way He chooses. I have learnt indeed with God all things are possible and quite frankly the same person you have been bickering with,gossiping about or running away from may very well be the same person God uses to bless your life. So do not limit or put God in a box, do not say i dont like Nigerian people because you might end up with a Nigerian husband lol God is Good!
Train up a child the way he should go says the book of Proverbs and award winning gospel singer Brit Nicole started that important step by dedicating her 4 months old baby girl Ella. Cutie Ella wore a soft pink vintage styled dress with flower studded hair band…(Funnily enough it looks just like the hair band my princess wore for her dedication on the 3rd November this year..i got it from H&M)
Anyway not deviate from the story, it is so wonderful to see parents dedicating their babies unto the Lord so congratulations Miss Ella God bless you !!
Recently a friend of mine who is a ‘baby’ Christian asked me if she could still dedicate her 3 yr old son as i recently dedicated my princess at 7 months. My friend feels she may have left it too late but i tried to encourage her by letting her know its never too soon Nor too late to dedicate your child to God. Its amazing how the enemy can try to fill our minds with doubt so i would encourage any mum out there wanting to dedicate their child to go ahead regardless of their age as its the most beautiful thing one can do for their child and yes one day they will thank you for it.
Byron Cage celebrated his 51St birthday last weekend with much prayer and thanksgiving unto God according to his tweets over the weekend. Mr Cage who only recently returned from an emotional yet humbling trip to South Africa which coincided with the passing of Nelson Mandela seemed to be enjoying his day as he later tweeted thank you messages to us his fans and also to his peers.
I still cant believe he is 51 and not 35 well praise God for the grace too look young and i hope when i reach the 50s club i will look that good!! Congratulations to him !!